Politics, Poetry and Reviews

One Week Later

I did go to Canberra. I took the names of 48 people with me – friends, family members, colleagues, church people, and a few precious strangers who found me here or on social media and asked to be represented.

I stood among the others at the protest, with my sign, and listened to the speakers. Afterwards, I took myself and my sign to the smoking ceremony offered by the Aboriginal Tent Embassy, before adding my own name to the sign, and depositing it with the National Library of Australia. We are all part of the record of history, now.

And then I flew home, and went back to work, where I was promptly buried in grants and the logistics of in-person seminars, followed by an extremely full weekend of singing and writing work. It feels like there has hardly been time to think, let alone to write anything here.

I’ll be putting up a couple of backdated posts in the next few days, with my thoughts from just before and just after the rally. But it feels right to reflect a little on where we are a week later.

Mostly, I am a week angrier.

I mean, I didn’t really expect immediate change. I didn’t even expect that Morrison would come to the rally. Listening to women isn’t something he does. If he couldn’t even be bothered to read the accusations against Porter, he was hardly going to bother with the likes of us.

On the other hand, I really didn’t expect him to come out with that line about protestors in other countries being met with bullets, either.

He has been saying since that he was misunderstood and mis-characterised, but every woman I know (and plenty of men) heard it for what it was.

Aren’t you lucky we are letting you come and protest like this? Aren’t you lucky we are only raping you and not killing you? How good is Australia? Now, go home and be quiet and be grateful that we aren’t hurting you more. Because we could, if we wanted to.

I actually do believe that Morrison didn’t mean it the way it sounded. I think he is genuinely so utterly oblivious to the idea that women might have thoughts that are not his thoughts that he really just thought he was cleverly distracting us with talk about Myanmar. No wonder he is so offended to have been misunderstood.

(Though… you would think a guy who used to work in advertising would be a little better at communicating his message, wouldn’t you?)

I also want to talk about how it feels to be a woman, and a survivor of sexual assault, reading the news in Australia right now.

While there are some really fantastic journalists (mostly women, but a few good men, too) and politicians who are saying the right things, I am seeing plenty of messages like this:

What if it wasn’t true?

Look at her diary, she’s clearly crazy.

How can we believe her? It’s just he said, she said…

This should be left to the police.

The poor man is devastated by these accusations.

She was drunk, what did she expect?

Let’s create an app to record consent and prevent misunderstandings.

I think the people who write things like this are afraid. Afraid that they will be misunderstood, or lied about. Afraid that maybe they have done something that wasn’t quite consensual, and they will get called out for it. Afraid that suddenly, something they did a long time ago which they have mostly forgotten about will come back to haunt them. They are thinking of one specific person or one specific incident.

The trouble is, they are talking to all of us.

Here’s what survivors see when they read these messages.

You’re lying.

You’re crazy.

You’re overreacting.

It’s your fault anyway.

He probably didn’t realise you didn’t want it.

Do you really want to ruin his life over a misunderstanding?

If you come forward, nobody is going to believe you.

One friend tweeted that it’s like being raped all over again. It’s definitely re-traumatising. We already have the voices inside us that say maybe we really are over-reacting, maybe we are being unfair, maybe we are crazy. We already have that fear that if we say anything we will be forced to justify our clothes, our location, our activity, our reasons for associating with that person in the first place. We already suspect that we won’t be believed.

It’s really not helpful having senior political figures and journalists reinforcing that.

And speaking of things that are unhelpful, here is a tangible example of where this sort of denial and stonewalling leads to. Kenja Communications, a spiritual self-help group, has refused to join the National Redress Scheme for survivors of institutional child sexual abuse, citing the Porter case as precedent:

“Anyone can contact the scheme and say they were abused as a child and without due process, in fact it appears without any real process, can receive up to $150,000 in compensation,” the statement said.

“We are of the view that recent events including the Christian Porter case confirm the legitimacy and appropriateness of the position we have taken regarding not joining the National Redress Scheme. In our respectful opinion, if it is proper for the Attorney-General to invoke the rule of law, it is also proper for us.”

Thank you so much, Mr Porter.

As for today’s revelations… look, I think it is essential that we do not conflate consensual sex acts (even ones in extraordinarily inappropriate locations) with sexual violence. We cannot allow today’s reports to turn the narrative from one of sexual abuse into one of sexual scandal.

But it cannot be denied that a workplace where men feel free to masturbate on the desks of their female colleagues and share the photos with their friends is clearly a workplace with some extremely concerning ideas about sex and gender. And while these may not rise to the level of condoning rape, they are absolutely indicative of a culture that has a big problem with women in power.

It’s telling, I think, that the wanker in question was a staffer, and the desk was that of an MP. It sends a message that says “You may think that you are more powerful than me, but you are still beneath me. You are still just something to be used for sex.” It takes an interesting combination of insecurity and confidence to need to send a message like that, I think.

(It is, of course, also an example of unwanted and unsolicited sexual behaviour. The MP did not consent to this. She may not have been present, but it was something that was done with the intention of humiliating her and ‘putting her back in her place.’)

So what happens now? I have no idea. This has been going on for a month now, but it feels interminable. I think the government really is hoping it will blow over soon, but I don’t think it can. It is too personal for too many people.

(On a lighter note, I just want to note that the last time I went to Parliament House, Tony Abbott was gone a week later. The magic doesn’t seem to be working so well this time, but I want you to know that I did do my very best.)

Sexual assault support services:

  • 1800 Respect national helpline: 1800 737 732
  • Lifeline (24-hour crisis line): 131 114
  • Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636


  1. Sandy Buck

    Thank you Cate
    As always you cut to the heart of the matter. And your lived experience makes your words more powerful.
    I loved your last lines and really wish you had been more successful. Then again, the devil we don’t know could be Peter Dutton!

    • Catherine

      Thanks, Sandy. Yes, it could be like one of those fairy gifts – you get the thing you said you wanted, and it leaves you worse off than where you started. We really need to throw the whole lot of them out.

      I do wonder if the ALP has considered withdrawing the pair for Porter and Reynolds. I imagine that they are concerned about the precedent, and that they have a larger cohort of younger women who might go on mat leave and need pairs. But… something certainly needs to be done, because this is untenable.

      (Honestly, my lived experience is very minor as these things go. And despite everything I’ve written, a big part of me still feels as if it was a misunderstanding, something that is somehow my fault, something that I don’t have the right to write about or speak about. Which says something interesting about the psychology of this stuff, since if someone told me that story I’d have no hesitation in naming it for what it is and saying that they had the right to speak out.)

  2. Lsn

    The desks thing this morning was just… how old are these boys? Because these are not the actions of a man, they are the actions of incredibly immature boys. I have never worked anywhere where that type of behaviour wouldn’t have been way, way beyond the pale.

    I really want a group photo of these staffers, because it strikes me that there doesn’t seem to be much diversity in a lot of ways there, and I think it is negatively impacting our government.

    Also I think they need to revamp the structure so that ministerial staffers are employed by an independent body, and work for a specific minister – this would allow establishment of a code of practice, provide some certainty about workplace conditions etc.

    • Catherine

      Yes, it’s really private school boy energy. But the contempt it shows for women is palpable.

      Sounds like you want staffers to in fact be public servants rather than the current pseudo-fealty system. Which would also add a certain level of transparency, because they wouldn’t be so beholden to the needs of the political party above all else.

  3. Sandy Buck

    Hi again Cate,
    It would be interesting to view the schooling of the men involved in the desk wank incident. Private all boys school? All boys government school? Co-ed private school? Co-ed government school?

    I think I read recently that Paul Keating introduced changes to how staffers, formerly public servants, are employed. Now staffers are apppointed by elected members, with a rubber stamp and pay via the Dept of Finance. Please correct me if I am wrong.

    Best wishes,

    • Catherine

      Hi Sandy,
      Yes, I think we are all assuming private all boys’ school, but of course we don’t know for sure. It certainly does fit in with the culture.
      I’m afraid I don’t know that much about how staffers are employed, except that they aren’t public servants… which is in itself a problem, as we have seen. It would certainly be preferable if they were at least nominally politically neutral, rather than entirely wedded to the interests of their MP and their party.

      Best wishes,

  4. thecoburgmeddler

    Yes. You can certainly hear the fear in people’s voices when they try and minimise the allegations against Porter. Thank you for this excellent and clear thinking piece.

    Cate, I don’t know if you’re interested but we’re a local independent newspaper publishing monthly-ish around Moreland. Get in contact if you ever feel like publishing some of your work, e.g. this piece. It’s great. thecoburgmeddler@gmail.com

    • Catherine

      Thank you for your very kind comment! I will certainly consider it.

  5. Ozlsn

    Today I thought of you and how angry, how sad you would have been. Miss you, and we keep fighting to make it better. xx

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

© 2024 Cate Speaks

Theme by Anders NorenUp ↑